When someone is a dying, we first will give our condolences
Yet out of fear of death it may be rare that we will see that person again.
How uncaring and disrespectful of the dying!
For a dying person, in his time of need, -- like my close friend F. -- wants the emotional support of friends in his hour of need.
So I am sometimes bothered by the apparent unavailability of his friends.
True - I am depressed and despondent because I am ultimately powerless to stop him from slowly dying from cancer.
This is one thing I cannot change and accept it.
In a heart-to-hear discussion with my friend F., I did admit that I'd encountered abandonment in my life.
Yet it is foolish of me to believe that a friend dying is a form of abandonment.
Having awoken to this fact, that the death do not abandon us when they go,
I have opened my eyes to new life.
For the real adventure for him begins when F. passes on.
I am no longer afraid of that probability.
Eventually, F. and I will tidy away the loose ends so that his imminent departure does not complicate things for me.
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NB: I am also ragin with anger about the so-called friends who abandon a dying friend upon hearing the "sad" news.
Few people are able to step up to the plate to help a dying friend and comfort him in his time of need.
I am bitter about this.
Why?
Because such neglect only proves much of what I have said.
We need not run away from Death when She confronts us, either directly or through a friend who's dying.
To face Her, all one needs to do is be there for your friend in their time of need!
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