List of websites I am banned from

Clubvibes.com, Clubzone.com, Fnk.ca, and now, Adultfriendfinders.com -- and I've had death threats from AFF, too.

Well, my rationalization is that by voicing my inner voice (honne - ho-neh) too boldly, I was branded a troublemaker.

So much for equality and self expression in Western culture. It's all lip service, a form of American tatemae.

It's almost indistinguishable from Japanese culture!!!

Being Japanese

Being Japanese is uniquely unique. Thus social obligation (giri) is something only the Japanese can truly understand.

Likewise, the subtlety of ninjo (human compassion) can only be experienced by the Japanese, or by someone who has a strong sense of duty.

Thus is it difficult for someone not born Japanese to truly know what it is to be Japanese.

Fo the casual Western observer would first be impressed by my exquisite manners, only to consider it superficial and me, a hypocrite.

Yet am I finding that even the West is subtly turning Japanese, especially when I allow myself to express honne.