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On Being Nice

"Be nice" actually means respecting the group's social hierarchy by trying to become like-minded through the use of patience, perseverance and politeness, despite the situation.

It does not mean "fighting fire with fire", nor does it especially mean using one's higher intelligence like a blunt instrument.

Instead, being nice allows each of us a wide range of exercising basic goodness in unexpected ways, be it through asking questions, explaining your point of view and remaining silent to listen closely to understand what the other person is really saying.

Eventually, each person will eventually come to know what it means to be nice.

Originally posted January 15, 2011 at 3:56 PM

1 comment:

Steve said...

One form of using intelligence like a blunt instrument is to read what a person write but call it dumb without stating what parts you disagree with.