Dolls help take us out of childhood.
Some children use them to roleplay family drama so that the child mind can make sense of family dynamics for later recall as adults, when we finally do look at our childhood to make sense of it and to help us cope with life.
When I left Victoria in 1990, I was given two frog dolls by a close frind of mine.
They helped me adapt to living with my folks again.
About three years later, my friend from Victoria found a boyfriend, got pregnant and broke off contact with me.
The story of Vasalisa, who relies of her doll to escape Baba Yaga, is one about rising above the good mother, the part of us that can't stop helping others, even to the point of losing touch with our inner self.
Certain types of romance result from unfairly taking advantage of women who are mothering and act out of their compassion.
They may find sympathy for a man who tells his life story after he has gifted her with positive attention i.e. charming her by commenting on her beauty.
This story of Vasalisa contains the means by which such a woman can find her Wild woman side and nurture her intuition.
In this way shewill be able to balance her mothering abilities with her intuition so that she is not vulnerable to the charming sweet-talking men out there.
My friend's gift of the frog dolls, I feel, helped me to adapt to home life.
In a sense, she too is a mother figure, since she did loan me cutlery and eating utensils.
I hope she too found someone to help her grow into motherhood.
It's been 15 years since I left Victoria, and 12.5 years since she broke off communication.
Her own child is about 13. I wonder what's happening with her...
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