Anecdotal evidence also indicates that women associate sexual aggression including the desire to have orgasm with selfishness, and they tend to be more reluctant to seek satisfaction than men due to being raised to associate such aggression with being anathema to being feminine.
This may explain why women, both gay and straight, tend to be more openminded about male homosexuals and condoning latent homosexual behavior in adolescence than men.
IMO the homophobic fallout of the 1920s further emphasized this double standard in the public school system, where it was considered to be sissy to not act like all boys and any boy who was a sissy was bullied to the point of rebelling against heterosexual groupthink.
Am I implying that heterosexual aggression may influence both men and women to choose to become queer?
Yes, because there is evidence that queers of both sexes are victims of child abuse (mainly physical abuse).
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20100621
Jealousy: Men and Women
Women tend to share friendships with the same sex than men that is much more intimate.
Most men couldn't put up with the jealousy from other male friends if they had a close platonic friendship with another man.
Straight men in jealousy over a close relationship between two men may gossip about their gayness or worse question one of the men's sexuality.
This catty behavior is rare among women, who instead will get into cat fights over a man. This tends to be true among heterosexual men who may fight for the affection of a woman.
Yet few women would accuse a woman of being lesbian if that woman paid attention to another woman over them.
Most men couldn't put up with the jealousy from other male friends if they had a close platonic friendship with another man.
Straight men in jealousy over a close relationship between two men may gossip about their gayness or worse question one of the men's sexuality.
This catty behavior is rare among women, who instead will get into cat fights over a man. This tends to be true among heterosexual men who may fight for the affection of a woman.
Yet few women would accuse a woman of being lesbian if that woman paid attention to another woman over them.
20100610
I Want to be Sedated!
In order to be tolerant of gay sex scenes, the wannabe liberal needs to be mildly sedated by antihistamines, rather than liberal wine imbibing.
Use of a suitable antihistamine, usually first generation, is to prevent nausea from the rocking motion during gay sex scenes, usually of the viewer due to stress of anxiety.
This is not an endorsement of antihistamine abuse, but of less harm during one's liberation of heterosexual conditioning.
YMMV
Use of a suitable antihistamine, usually first generation, is to prevent nausea from the rocking motion during gay sex scenes, usually of the viewer due to stress of anxiety.
This is not an endorsement of antihistamine abuse, but of less harm during one's liberation of heterosexual conditioning.
YMMV
20070615
Masculinity and Femininity and Their Influence on the GLBT Community
It is not masculinity that is patriarchal. Rather, it is extreme forms of masculinity that enforce patriarchal memes.
Indeed, most of the typically male ideals of behavior are actually distortions of masculinity as are some of the behaviors of gay males. This includes aggressiveness.
As well, gay rights was enhanced by masculinity's traits because the pro-active movement was spearheaded by men who had acquired some masculine traits such as assertness and reward-seeking behaviors.
In short, gay rights came about because both men and women acted "male" to gain respect of the heterosexual patriarchy.
A good example of this "male pride" is pants: both men and women wear them now.
Of course, now that gays are here to stay, perhaps it's time to bring a little femininity to this parade. Motherhood gives lesbian couples children, but gay male couples have to adopt. While both of them are willing to push the baby carriage, only women can be mothers. Yet this is not sexist; this is a medical fact which can only affect women.
Femininity is mixed up with motherhood and the gross aspects of pregnancy from conception to birth. Indeed, no male has conceived a child.
While masculinity is the root of patriarchy and gay rights, femininity is allowing lesbians to become mothers in same-sex marriages while gay men will continue to be fathers to their adopted offspring.
But just as men fathered patriarchy, gay men fathered gay rights. Though it will be the women who become the mother in all same-sex marriage if they so choose to be.
Indeed, most of the typically male ideals of behavior are actually distortions of masculinity as are some of the behaviors of gay males. This includes aggressiveness.
As well, gay rights was enhanced by masculinity's traits because the pro-active movement was spearheaded by men who had acquired some masculine traits such as assertness and reward-seeking behaviors.
In short, gay rights came about because both men and women acted "male" to gain respect of the heterosexual patriarchy.
A good example of this "male pride" is pants: both men and women wear them now.
Of course, now that gays are here to stay, perhaps it's time to bring a little femininity to this parade. Motherhood gives lesbian couples children, but gay male couples have to adopt. While both of them are willing to push the baby carriage, only women can be mothers. Yet this is not sexist; this is a medical fact which can only affect women.
Femininity is mixed up with motherhood and the gross aspects of pregnancy from conception to birth. Indeed, no male has conceived a child.
While masculinity is the root of patriarchy and gay rights, femininity is allowing lesbians to become mothers in same-sex marriages while gay men will continue to be fathers to their adopted offspring.
But just as men fathered patriarchy, gay men fathered gay rights. Though it will be the women who become the mother in all same-sex marriage if they so choose to be.
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