In respect to prostitution, boys are sexually abused at an earlier age
than girls. When they enter prostitution, they also enter it at an
earlier age than girls (8-10 vs 12-18 for girls).
However, male prostitutes are not always gay. They may also be bisexual and heterosexual, even if their main customers are male.
Indeed, male prostitution do not perform gay sex. Usually they are receivers of anal sex.
Yes, they are sodomized.
And that means that male prostitutes are more at-risk than female prostitutes.
Why? Because girls and women can get out of prostitution before age 18.
This
is because male prostitutes do not want to risk how the STate treats
them if they try to get out of the industry before age 18.
Usually this leads to the chaos of foster care.
Foster
care usually will violate the rights of male prostitutes to a stable
and secure home since most foster parents do not understand male
prostitution.
What we need are safe homes for male prostitutes who want out.
But it won't happen in a society whose feminists will object to this misogynist and sexist rant.
Ergo
we need an egalitarian society that supports gender equality
transition. The privileges of feminism versus the privileges of the
patriarchy only continues an unnecessary gender war.
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Myopic Thoughts on Male Prostitution
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Feminism has led to me wishing I'd been born female, but that's unrealistic.
However, it is homophobic to call a straight male gay if he expresses such a wish when his desire to become female is tempered by reality and motivated by egalitarian ideals rather than the patriarchy that claims to foster equality of gender rights yet condones sexism by both sides of the gender debate.
At the moment, the choices to get out a bad situation a woman has are exceedingly greater than for a man in the same position when at risk.
For example, a female prostitute can get pregnant or get married to avoid the situation. If a bad trick is after her, she can escape to a women's shelter. If she has a drug addiction, there's rehab. As well, she can delay prostitution to a later age than men. She is at risk for victimization by rape and murder.
A male prostitute has to avoid gay bashing, sodomy (rape) and murder. He also has to wait until 18 before seeking to get out of the business, because he could end up being taken from one home and placed in another, rather than actually have the core issue that he may share with his sister of the night: threat of physical and/or sexual abuse in the home he lives in. If that threat is absent there, then there may be an abuser awaiting in the immediate community.
I feel that social workers need to step up the scrutiny of foster homes, to prevent abuse. The kinds of foster parents which ought to be closely scrutinized are where one or both parent has an untreated mental illness, untreated drug addiction, or both untreated mental illness and drug addiction.
These problems cannot be properly treated if the minor is treated to the chaos involved in fostering, as sometimes it leads to unsafe environments even though the foster care system says otherwise.
This is why male prostitutes wait longer before exiting prostitution.
Sometimes a male prostitute will have been oppressed by a family member physically and/or sexually. If discovered by the State, then it leads to the chaos of foster care. If not discovered, then it could lead to at-risk behavior such as suicide by either the fast route (hanging, poisoning, slitting wrists, gun) or the slow route (drug addiction including alcohol and tobacco, abuse of pharmaceutical drugs particularly narcotics, cutting and similar forms of self abuse including the psychological).
It is important for the State's agents (social workers) never use any method available to them to play the blame game with the parents. However, the parents' objections to removal of their child still need to be included in the court evidence when a male prostitute who is a minor is taken away from his birth parents and inserted into a foster home. In no way is the State to allow homophobia to guide its hand in this matter. Thus, the State has no say at all in sexuality of its charges in a foster or group home.
The same recommendations above also apply to group homes, and this includes regular training of security guards who ha to put up with psychotic children who have been abused from a young age.
Feminism has led to me wishing I'd been born female, but that's unrealistic.
However, it is homophobic to call a straight male gay if he expresses such a wish when his desire to become female is tempered by reality and motivated by egalitarian ideals rather than the patriarchy that claims to foster equality of gender rights yet condones sexism by both sides of the gender debate.
At the moment, the choices to get out a bad situation a woman has are exceedingly greater than for a man in the same position when at risk.
For example, a female prostitute can get pregnant or get married to avoid the situation. If a bad trick is after her, she can escape to a women's shelter. If she has a drug addiction, there's rehab. As well, she can delay prostitution to a later age than men. She is at risk for victimization by rape and murder.
A male prostitute has to avoid gay bashing, sodomy (rape) and murder. He also has to wait until 18 before seeking to get out of the business, because he could end up being taken from one home and placed in another, rather than actually have the core issue that he may share with his sister of the night: threat of physical and/or sexual abuse in the home he lives in. If that threat is absent there, then there may be an abuser awaiting in the immediate community.
I feel that social workers need to step up the scrutiny of foster homes, to prevent abuse. The kinds of foster parents which ought to be closely scrutinized are where one or both parent has an untreated mental illness, untreated drug addiction, or both untreated mental illness and drug addiction.
These problems cannot be properly treated if the minor is treated to the chaos involved in fostering, as sometimes it leads to unsafe environments even though the foster care system says otherwise.
This is why male prostitutes wait longer before exiting prostitution.
Sometimes a male prostitute will have been oppressed by a family member physically and/or sexually. If discovered by the State, then it leads to the chaos of foster care. If not discovered, then it could lead to at-risk behavior such as suicide by either the fast route (hanging, poisoning, slitting wrists, gun) or the slow route (drug addiction including alcohol and tobacco, abuse of pharmaceutical drugs particularly narcotics, cutting and similar forms of self abuse including the psychological).
It is important for the State's agents (social workers) never use any method available to them to play the blame game with the parents. However, the parents' objections to removal of their child still need to be included in the court evidence when a male prostitute who is a minor is taken away from his birth parents and inserted into a foster home. In no way is the State to allow homophobia to guide its hand in this matter. Thus, the State has no say at all in sexuality of its charges in a foster or group home.
The same recommendations above also apply to group homes, and this includes regular training of security guards who ha to put up with psychotic children who have been abused from a young age.
Ethnic Solidarity in Fostering
Nothing in this blog entry is expert opinion but is based on observation of the effects of foster families. Hence it is biased and needs a rewrite. So if after you read this article and object to anything I recommend or say, then I urge you to comment to me.
It's not to hard to get a Gmail account and to become a GooglePlus member when that restricts comments. However, I am not a firm believer in perpetuating the evils of open comments, because the goods of rational discussion are not supported by the evils of spamming, and darkly negative comments which stop discussion dead.
Essentially, the family's cohesiveness ought never be challenged by the State. For the consequences of State involvement in the break-up of family are worse than the immediate situation IF and only IF the family is so dysfunctional that the children's security and safety are at threat.
During the interview to become a foster parent, it is up to the social worker to get a complete picture of the foster parents, his or her parents, and how everyone grew up. This thus will involve family therapists, and other mental health professionals. As it stands now, the gaping holes in the process leading up to being a foster parent need to be repaired.
Making these statements about foster parenting is in no way 'attacking' good foster parents. It is merely asking of social workers to enhance the security of family and the security of fostering. If this is actually done now, and my words are not in touch with today, then my words only show that I expect the process to continue to weed out "bad" parents.
One warning sign of "bad" parenting is when the social worker asks the question, "How are things going on in the home?" and there is an awkward silence followed by "Fine", "Things are alright and Sally is doing well", and "I really like it here. Thanks." Yet the foster parents and the foster child assigned to the home are not making eye contact with the workers.
If this is an Asian family with an Asian children, then the cultural trait of deference should be assumed. If they were suspected of having problems, then it's important to then say, "Well, off the record, are there problem between you, Joe and you, Jane?" and then after a minute, "How about you, Sally?" Finally, individual interviews need to be taken to help avoid the tendency for family groups to "put the lid on rotten garbage".
I actually encourage ethnic solidarity to be the practice of social workers. A lot of the problems in foster families is that the cultural milieu of the foster home may be at odds with the culture in which the child grew up. When the child is between 12 and 18, cultural traits are already hardwired and therefore, there will always be confrontation between the foster parents and the child being fostered. Therefore it is recommended that the child be matched by cultural origin, before other criteria are added to ensure fostering avoids the pitfall of any underlying agenda to continue the cycle of patriarchy.
Ethnic solidarity implies that both the child's cultural traits and the foster parents' traits match. When they do not match, then the foster parents are disqualified. Thus the home must be Asian if the child is Asian. However, the parents may be Asian or non-Asians who have adopted most of the Asian cultural traits through assimilation in an Asian community or country. This is not a racialist priotity; this is a multicultural priority.
Objection to this ethnic solidarity may be that any family is good enough to the child when his or her needs are met. I would argue that without a good ethnic match, the foster parents will rarely get the foster child from observing their family rules when the child has had a relax set of rules made arbitarily.
If you want confirmation of that, check out The World's Strictest Parents on Youtube.
It's not to hard to get a Gmail account and to become a GooglePlus member when that restricts comments. However, I am not a firm believer in perpetuating the evils of open comments, because the goods of rational discussion are not supported by the evils of spamming, and darkly negative comments which stop discussion dead.
Essentially, the family's cohesiveness ought never be challenged by the State. For the consequences of State involvement in the break-up of family are worse than the immediate situation IF and only IF the family is so dysfunctional that the children's security and safety are at threat.
During the interview to become a foster parent, it is up to the social worker to get a complete picture of the foster parents, his or her parents, and how everyone grew up. This thus will involve family therapists, and other mental health professionals. As it stands now, the gaping holes in the process leading up to being a foster parent need to be repaired.
Making these statements about foster parenting is in no way 'attacking' good foster parents. It is merely asking of social workers to enhance the security of family and the security of fostering. If this is actually done now, and my words are not in touch with today, then my words only show that I expect the process to continue to weed out "bad" parents.
One warning sign of "bad" parenting is when the social worker asks the question, "How are things going on in the home?" and there is an awkward silence followed by "Fine", "Things are alright and Sally is doing well", and "I really like it here. Thanks." Yet the foster parents and the foster child assigned to the home are not making eye contact with the workers.
If this is an Asian family with an Asian children, then the cultural trait of deference should be assumed. If they were suspected of having problems, then it's important to then say, "Well, off the record, are there problem between you, Joe and you, Jane?" and then after a minute, "How about you, Sally?" Finally, individual interviews need to be taken to help avoid the tendency for family groups to "put the lid on rotten garbage".
I actually encourage ethnic solidarity to be the practice of social workers. A lot of the problems in foster families is that the cultural milieu of the foster home may be at odds with the culture in which the child grew up. When the child is between 12 and 18, cultural traits are already hardwired and therefore, there will always be confrontation between the foster parents and the child being fostered. Therefore it is recommended that the child be matched by cultural origin, before other criteria are added to ensure fostering avoids the pitfall of any underlying agenda to continue the cycle of patriarchy.
Ethnic solidarity implies that both the child's cultural traits and the foster parents' traits match. When they do not match, then the foster parents are disqualified. Thus the home must be Asian if the child is Asian. However, the parents may be Asian or non-Asians who have adopted most of the Asian cultural traits through assimilation in an Asian community or country. This is not a racialist priotity; this is a multicultural priority.
Objection to this ethnic solidarity may be that any family is good enough to the child when his or her needs are met. I would argue that without a good ethnic match, the foster parents will rarely get the foster child from observing their family rules when the child has had a relax set of rules made arbitarily.
If you want confirmation of that, check out The World's Strictest Parents on Youtube.
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