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20140805

Objectifying Gender and Social Conditioning (satire)

First of all, interested parties may want to Google "gylanic" and look for the feminist criticism of it, as well as research the role the matriarchal archetypes of virgin, mother and crone. Otherwise, we'll be working out of ignorance of what role feminists, Riane Eisler, and those archetypes play in daily life.

IMHO it's a joint effort. How it gets done requires that men refrain from doing their thinking with the little head, and that women remember that the male ego is a myth.

Otherwise it may become a battle of wills if either side has an axe to grind.

In order get beyond the objectifying of women, both sides have to acknowledge the role that the patriarchal roots of human society plays in it.

Likewise, the matriarchal archetypes of virgin, mother, and crone also play a role in women-only views of patriarchy and also need to be addressed to help sensitize the men to what women want to help both sides overcome this age-old problem.

Yet it is more than an age-old problem, it is also a challenge for both men and women due to social conditioning.

That is why I suggested that we make use of the extensive research that shows that objectifying women (and men) is due to social conditioning. The only thing that is "hardwired" into the brain is the sex drive.

As well, the terms "man", "woman", "heterosexual" and "homosexual" are artifacts of that social conditioning. The first two terms are genders rigidly defined by patriarchal society, and the latter two are forms of sexuality (sexual expression).

However, I am not suggesting that we try to undo all of our social conditioning. Rather, the focus is on objectifying women (and men).

When a person listens to a story of general interest written by another person without knowing the person's gender, it is impossible to know whether a man or woman wrote it.

Before the 1920s, after which time the genders were rigidly enforced and homosexuality was criminalized, a person's sexuality was nobody's business and homosexuality was condoned, provided that both parties remained discreet.

Once upon a time, transgender people were not subject to rigidly enforced surgical and often psychotherapeutic intervention, depending on the person's socio-economic background.

In other cultures, the third sex is accepted but within context of social rules sometimes being eroded by patriarchal values imposed by first-world nations, much as nationalism was imposed on peoples living in societies prior to the rising of nations both in Europe and in the Americas as well as Asia.

However, objectifying women (and sometimes men) is due to social conditioning. It is patriarchal in nature, and neither gender nor sexuality are immune to its effects. One of many ways to reduce the effects of such social conditioning is to sensitize oneself to the way such social conditioning plays on our relationship with others.

Alone, one does not objectify others, apart from treating oneself to be of sole importance to oneself and considering trusted others to be essential to one's well-being. Thus, one trusts first family and then friends.

Then how does objectifying others work? Objectifying implies that one is presenting the objectified as an object and thus depersonalizing the other. In contract, personalizing then implies that the other becomes known as a person, and subsequently respecting his or her rights as an individual, thus individualizing that person. As well, in language, personal pronouns tend to personalize a person while depersonalizing a person happens when s/he is described as an object to fulfilled the material needs of a person in power. Thus, there is a dominator-submissive dichotomy in the power structure associated with objectifying women.

Thus, maintaining an impersonal idea of a person without careful consideration of that person as a unique individual with the same rights as you or I is also a factor in objectifying other people.

Even so, the system of objectifying a person is not called objectification, which refers to the act of representing an abstraction as a physical thing and is the concrete representation of an abstract idea or thing. While people are not abstractions nor are they an abstract idea or thing, our ideas about other people are abstractions when we do not know them personally.

The only term which defines the process of objectifying is depersonalization, which has both personal (from the point of view of the self) and social (from the point of view of the other within the context of self). Thus, other people cannot be objects without feeling depersonalized on learning that they have been objectified. Likewise, the person doing the objectifying may be unaware of the effect that such depersonalization is having on himself/herself.

Depersonalization has detrimental effects on both the objectified person and the person doing the objectifying. It is morally irresponsible for the latter to deny such effects or to blame the objectified for them.

However, objectifying a woman (or a man) is another case of situational ethics in that within the auspices of a loving relationship, the tendency to objectify each other is reduced by getting to know each other as people. Instead, by making it personal and a shared experience, such a relationship can reduces the tendency to objectify each other. Thus, objectifying another person denies a personal and shared experience.

As well, what defines a personal and shared experience requires communication between both parties on an equal level. Proponents of the view that prostitution is an objectified relationship deny that the prostitute and the customer are on an equal level, despite the fact that in some cases, as the customer gets to know the prostitute that he has chosen as a regular customer, they both may cross from a depersonalized relationship into a deeply personal and loving one.

Even the language used in prostitution depersonalizes each party: a customer is called a "john" and a prostitute is called many kinds of name, including the neutral term "professional".

Returning to the objectifying of women, this is a matter that may be remedied by social interaction both on a public and a private level. It cannot be done informally without facing the risks that depersonalization entails. Nor can it be done by people who are not familiar with the terms I have introduced here.

This is why I have introduced most of the concepts which face each and every person, men and women, as well as heterosexuals and homosexuals.

Originally posted on December 26, 2010 at 9:36 PM

Reference:

Social conditioning: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_conditioning
Transgender: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender
Depersonalization: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depersonalization

20131117

Rapes at UBC: Due to Rape Culture or Racial Profiling?

It is because women are seen as the weaker sex that rapists target them. The argument that women are the weaker sex is sexist.

Women are weaker because social conditioning of females in society has led to the fallacy that higher upper body strength is not feminine.

Yet women's fitness magazines have promoted upper body strength and increased muscle mass as sexy.

I argue that because of social conditioning, women have decided not to develop upper body strength and increased muscle mass.

Thus, women are the weaker sex due to choices they have made to protect the myth of the weaker sex.

Feminists would argue that this is a sexist rationalization. I could counter that this only looks sexist on first glance.

A close scrutiny of myths about femininity may be sabotaged by overemphasis on binary gender in society i.e. that there are differences in male and female behavior.

These differences are due to biases about what is feminine and what is masculine. By emphasizing that women are the weaker sex - a myth that has influenced women not to increase upper body strength and overall muscle mass - society has conditioned women and men to make that false assumption.

Thus the solution is to raise children to be human beings, and to encourage girls to participate in sports that were traditionally male.

This has been done in society yet the myth that women are the weaker sex still prevails.

As well, rape culture needs to be addressed in public education to prevent future assaults. I endorse increased physical training in girls and young women and martial arts training.

This has happened at UBC as a result of the rapes. It needs to be promoted in public education too.

Finally, the binary binary itself is a factor that needs to be addressed. The myth that women are the weaker sex is partially due to social conditioning. Women who believe that increased upper body strength and overall muscle mass is ugly tend to be living examples of that myth. The minority of women who have chosen to increase muscle mass are proof that the "women are the weaker" is a fallacy.

Rather than examining why women accept the myth rather than the truth that weakness is due to choices that both sexes make due to social conditioning, the social conditioning which results in the difference between the ways boys and girls are raised in society needs to be addressed.

Child-rearing differences that are based on gender respect the fact that boys and girls behave differently in social settings. Most boys are dominant in their behavior, while most girls are submissive.

However, when a girl tries to become dominant, she is given social cues to be submissive and whenever she breaks the rules, she is shamed until she is conditioned to be submissive in public but dominant in private. The same thing is done to boys: when a boy act submissive he too is shamed until he is conditioned to be dominant in public but submissive in private. These types of children tend to be the rule.

The boys and girls who reflect the myths of femininity and masculinity are not the rule in society. Rather they have taken the social cues to extreme. It leads to such fallacies that only the male ego exists in public, while in private feminine women give evidence of female ego through displays of vanity by frequently consulting their reflections to improve their beauty.

How does rape culture fit into this? Rape culture ia based on the assumption that boys and men are supposed to be dominant and girls and women are supposed to be submissive.

However, this assumption is a logical conclusion based on social conditioning which emphasizes the differences between boys and girls. It also is assumed that one trait of dominance is the use of violence. In contrast, one trait of submission is the use of nonviolent verbal communication to reduce the threat of violence.

In short, the dominant person will select a submissive person to victimize. However, the submissive person who chooses to act submissively becomes a victim.

In the cases of the rapes on UBC campus, most of the women did not submit willingly. Indeed, in most cases, the rape was stopped before intromission. Thus most of the cases of rape are actually cases of sexual assault since none of them wnded in coitus.

Thus I submit that the six sexual assaults since September 2013 are not rapes but attempted rapes. I also submit that none of the so-called victims submitted to rape but instead submitted to assault due to intoxication or fatigue but soon fought off their attacker.

This means that the rape culture argument is a political ploy by WAVAW aka the Vancouver Rape Crisis Centre to cast the six survivors of sexual assault as victims of rape.

As well, the term rape culture is itself a fallacy. If there was truly a rape culture, then the six incidents of sexual violence imply that there are up to 54 unreported incidents that were not reported because the many women did not think they were victims because they successfully fought off their attacker who was known to them or they are too ashamed to report the incident because they are afraid to be painted as the victim.

Therefore rape culture is a feminist term used to frame sexual assault in terms of aggressor and victim. As well, the dominance and submission dichotomy is a false one since there are people who are dominant in both public and private, people who are submissive in public and in private, people who are dominant in public and submissive in private and people who are submissive in public and dominant in private. Additionally there may be people who exhibit all four types of behavior depending on the circumstances.

Sexual violence is actually a rare occurrence, and incidents of it have been reported less over the years because of increased reporting. Its reporting on UBC campus has not stopped the sexual assaults because women on campus still believe they are safe and engage in behaviors that result in being assaulted by the attacker i.e. walking alone to their dormitories and walking in areas of UBC where it is safe for the attack to strike.

That there was a sixth sexual assault on UBC campus is proof that the rise in martial arts training by female students has done nothing to stop attempted rape. It also indicates that the message from UBC to walk in a group is not being heeded by some of the students.

Thus the women who was assaulted chose to behave in a vulnerable manner. I deny that I am blaming the victim since there is no rape victim. There is only another sexual assault survivor who is also a survivor of attempted rape. In all cases, the survivors successfully fought off their attacker.

It is because UBC has refused to allow the sexual assault centre from helping prevent sexual assault on campus in a more pro-active manner that these assaults continue.

It is also because UBC President Toope has yet to associate the assaults to the frosh rape chants and the incidents of racism on campus that the assaults will continue.

Additionally the refusal by a few female students to use the strategies available to reduce potential assaults shows either that they feel invulnerable due to their youth or refuse to behave in a manner that reduce the chance of sexual assault.

Nothing UBC campus does regarding assault prevention will help such women. They choose to remain vulnerable in the hope that the police or a security guard catches the attacker. However, because they choose to walk in areas which are unsafe, they also choose to accept the risk.

Regarding the attacker, the descriptions of him are consistent with a man not originally from Western society, possibly Middle Eastern, Persian or South Asian. It is not racist to assume that the man is born into a culture in which the traditional role of men is to be dominant and women, submissive. This is a cultural absolute in which any deviation from the norm almost always unfairly punishes the women. To such men, it is the norm for rape culture to arise.

Feminist would argue that this is racial profiling and that generally men create rape culture because they are dominant due to their gender. I counter-argue that the roles of dominance and submission is not exclusively "men are dominant" and "women are submissive" because it depends on the situation.

However, in traditional cultures, the roles of dominance and submission are rigid with men being dominant and women, submissive.

My guess is that the attacker is assuming that his potential victims would submit willingly. None of the six women who survived their sexual assaults submitted willingly and this prevented being raped. I also argue that these women are survivors of sexual assault, and that the attacker is inept at being a rapist because whenever a woman resisted, he fled.

In conclusion, I submit that rape culture in Western society is not the cause of the six incidents of sexual assault on UBC campus. Instead, rape culture in the Middle Eaqst and South Asia may more likely be the cause. The feminists' argument regarding rape culture has been unfairly generalized so as to avoid any hint of racism.

However, it is not racist to racially profile the attacker since he is not white. Indeed, the perpetration of sexual assault by white males has decreased over the past 20 years. Yet there is a higher incidence of sexual assault by men of Western and South Asia over the same period, most recently reported in India.

Perhaps then the attacker has assumed that white women - most of the six victim are white - are easy targets. However, they are not submissive like women in his cultural group. This is why I call him an inept rapist since he has consistently failed in dominating white women.

I would then conclude that the attacker is racially profiling his potential victims, and will continue to fail to succeed at raping them. Yet he will succeed at sexual assault, and thus continue to terrorize women on campus.

Thus this is a racially-motivated hate crime against women. He is familiar with UBC and will continue to attempt rape of white females. His motivation in assault white females is due to the false assumption that white females easily submit to sexual assault.

Any survivor of such sexual assaults should report such incidents immediately. Any women who thwarted the man by hyper-vigilant activity should report a description of this man.

This man will continue to strike because there are no withnesses after dark in the early morning.

Thus the prevention is simple: NEVER WALK ALONE AT NIGHT.

20130820

Schizophrenia as Reaction to The Madness Called Society (satire)

I personally do not believe the schizophrenia is a mental illness, but rather the result of the breakdown of social conditioning, evidenced by inappropriate behaviour and thought due to loss of inhibition against them.

Unconsciously, the schizophrenic is more likely to break the rules and introduce novel rules, while defending society's rules to the death even when it means his loss of freedom as mental patient.

In contrast, the reason why some schizophrenics are non-compliant has nothing to do with rules but with a strong phobia about loss of autonomy.

Rather than now breaking into a long rant using evidence to back up my claims, I will instead encourage the reader to read the book mentioned in the reference below.

For it is repression of the libido that may be the first sign of stress that accumulates resulting in schizotypies (eccentricities) which might evolve into schizophrenia, depending on the social culture into which an individual is born.

It is more useful to develop a prevention strategy to reduce the effect of stress on people's psyches, to prevent schizotypies from becoming full-blown psychotic breaks which are consistently mislabelled schizophrenia of unknown etiology.

Am I denying that people with schizophrenia are schizophrenic? No, but I am denying that it is foremost a mental illness. Rather, schizophrenia is the result of social repression in that the inappropriate behaviour and especially speech which is usually repressed due to social conditioning is an internal rebellion against social rules that manifests in inappropriate external forms.

The cure for schizophrenia then is to recondition the schizophrenic mind in a democratic socialism which allows the positive inappropriate behaviour and speech (aggression leading to laughter) but disinhibits the negative inappropriate behaviour (aggression leading to violence).

This also requires other people to embrace their eccentricities, and to avoid denying that society is form of madness.

Reference:

Marcuse, Eros and Civilization

20110207

AA Journal Entry: January 11-25, 2011 - Two weeks of Confession and Spiritual Healing

Tuesday, 11 January 2011, 10:20 AM

IMHO, at the root of all my issues is the social conditioning known as never say "No" to others in need.

Yet, to avoid saying "No", often I will stay at home.

Actually, after careful reflection, the reason why I stay home as a recluse has to do with a blatantly honest picture of myself as physically imperfect.

In contrast to this self-perception, I have concluded that a pure heart-mind implies a perfect soul, the concept of which was gifted to me at age 16.

So I had worked at perfecting my mind from an early age, despite the errors which crept up into my life due to shaming.

Age 1, I was hit in the head by my brother with a hoe. My crime was not yielding his fair share of the sandbox on my family's property.

Age 2 or 3, pressured into lighting a match by my brother, I nearly burned the barn down. Both my brother and I suffered for this.

Yet I was innocent then.

Because of those errors' effect, I acted out. Perhaps it was out of a sense of shame that my youth was a descent into madness.

If I defied my mother, then she punished me. I was constantly blamed for anything wrong that happened at home.

Then there were incidents outside of the home which eventually helped me to learn that my acting out would lead to harmful repercussions.

If it weren't for learning to read and write in public school, and for computers later in life, then I might have been in a sorry state.

Today I have learned the wisdom of non-action clearly. While thoughts may come and go, this body remains, another day older and deeply indebted to the mercy that God has shown me through His creation.

Even though each person is equally capable of great good or great evil, I view my currently life as balancing out the innocent evil done as a child.

Tuesday, 11 January 2011, 10:50 AM

Dear Lord, help me to see my life with the innocent eyes of a man redeemed by God's gift of salvation. I knew that You walked by my side as a child to help me realize today that my life before majority was innocent of guile.

Sunday, 16 January 2011, 2:49 PM

Since God has been with me since the day I was born, then my soul has been with me since then.

Soul is an abstract thing which I should take care not to reify unnecessarily, lest my understanding of it be muddied, rendering a fallacy of which I'll now explain.

The fallacy is that the soul is an object which is precious due to the process of reification, which means to make it a personal object which is more valuable than my life and the world around me.

Reification is also called hypostatization.

Tuesday, 25 January 2011, 4:43 PM

Life moves in mysterious ways, for which only God knows the reasons.

20101222

Freedom for Girls Essential for Social Enlightenment

In order for human beings to become socio-culturally enlightened, human society must continue to give the option to women earlier in their life cycle to break from traditional patriarchal mores, so as to free them from their current social conditioning.

This is not an advocacy of matriachalism, as both patriarchalism and this latter ideology rely on dominant-submissive dichotomy which conditions their respective society.