Are You Just Evil or a Do-Gooder?

As an ex-Clubvibes member, the minute I saw the article called "Anonymity Doesn't always Make You a Jerk. It Might Make You Kinder."

Though I admit replying with a reference to that website for social drinkers and their fans (usually their designated driver), it's the fact that Clubvibes had both fuckwads who were this close to being abusive and do-gooders that drove me away.

Why? Because I was turning Evil due to lack of sleep and the power that relative anonymity gives people.

However, what the Evil-doers and do-gooders hated was me switching between extremes. They thought it was normal to either be an extreme Evil-doer everyone hates or an extreme do-gooder who wants to reform a member who cries about her worst time at a club.

Either way, a person is lifé.

That is why I tried to be a moderate who may appear to be totally Evil but actually is a do-gooder.

Even though I had fans on that website, they wouldn't all stick up for me when the Evil-doers who were bullies started their abuse.

That's because most people who stand up to the bullies tend to escalate the situation by answering the bully's challenge instead of saying clearly that they will not put up with bullying on-line and do not answer the challenge.

Word to the wise: tell the owner of any web forum if a cyber-bully decides to take his sexual frustration out on you by tearing a piece off you on-line.

After hours of watching people trade insults on-line on Club Vibes, I'd only stick up for the underdog if s/he actually wasn't Evil. Usually the best way to determine if they are, is to offer private compliments. As a rule, Evil-doers usually tell you where to go and block you.

Just like Club Vibes, there are kids on GooglePlus who follow this same mentality of being more evil than Google. Thankfully, G+ allows me to report, mute and block them. The same goes for Twitter.

Otherwise, I'd be lumped in with the Evil-doers for a stupid comment that never was abusive but definitely passive-aggressive (usually a quote from a favorite TV show like Dr Who or the cult classic Firefly).

However, that would be a totally Evil way of reasoning because if you think long and hard about what I said, it's usually a constructive comment.

Anyway, I stopped logging into Club Vibes when I realized I'd become just as Evil as the Evil-doers who used multiple accounts to indulge in passive-aggressive forms of abuse as a form of social engineering.

There was no longer any purpose in using my sageb1 account to be a do-gooder, because I had been Evil to friends and enemies alike.

Cyberbullying on Clubvibes

It's also cyber bullying when a popular online forum for club goers labels the woman who has a psychotic episode because of unconscious elektra complex transfered to an imagined love interest who'd spurned her for being too pure.

I don't know what her anxiety attacks and paranoia over imagined stalkers are called, but schizophrenia comes to mind.

the saddest form of bullying is of schizoid females who are unconsciously afraid of being intimate with a BF but are willing to show their boobs online.

Sad to see bullying is a pastime for problem drinkers  with sociopathic meanness.

My Time on Facebook is Over

After two years on it, my profile was disabled by the Facebook Team sometime between Thursday May 6 and Saturday May 9.

After I asked why my account was disabled, they stated that my online behavior at Facebook violated Facebook's Statement of Rights and Responsibilities. As a result of recent online behavior, I will not be able to use Facebook. According to their email to me, the Facebook Team's decision is final and cannot be appealed.

This decision means I cannot create another Facebook account using my Yahoo account since FB's Statement of Rights and Responsibilities prohibits me from doing so.

Thank you, Facebook Team, for telling me why my account was disabled.

Thanks also for your prompt response.

After getting banned from other Internet forums (Clubvibes especially) as a result of previous on-line behavior, I plan to make no effort to create a new account on Facebook using another email account.

Instead, I plan to spend my time here editing my blog, and to return the focus on spirituality inspiration based on Buddhism and other faiths.

Finding Someone to Love

So why would I have to meet people at a noisy nightclub that's dark? Is it really possible to get to know someone under such adverse conditions?

People who claim they met their BF in club such-and-such did not get to know them at that club. Instead, they agree to meet at a coffee bar or do the movies and dinner thang.

Then i look at my parents: their marriage was arranged through a friend of my dad. My mom's never admitted to loving my dad, but proved it by visiting him at the old age home regularly. Now that he's been gone since a couple years ago, she proves it by visiting his plot at the local cemetery.

Today a lot of love marriages might end in divorce. How fickle love is!

So i watch Bollywood movies, and notice most of the male leads talk about love like me, even claiming that the gods bring us together. Maybe that's what's missing from the dating scene.

Most of us are so busy rationalizing the very essence of our dating that the joi de vivre is all squeezed out until all that's left is a couple of wilted personalities thirsty for something both of them have analyzed to death.

A long time ago someone has said that love is a learning experience. I'd like to add that it is also spiritually inspiring, hence my emphasis of unconditional love and me implying that human love is mostly lust.

Yet, when it's mostly lust, where the heck is the love that never dies?

For that's what the people who are in between relationships should figure out the answer for themselves: when you learn to love yourself unconditionally, you're not too worried about finding someone to love.

They might just find you.