The Moderation Method: The Glass is Both Half Empty and Half Full!

Even if my life didn't turn out well as my classmates who graduated in 1976, then I will still insist that I would never change what I did other than get more sleep.

I have a method to deal with life.

My method is to always bounce back from any short stumble, be it financial or what have you (depression, anxiety, upsets).

For someone to tell me such and such is for my own good without any humor is too mercenary for my tastes. You may think you are helping me, but it's like sticking a knife in me to tell me "It's for your own good."

How dare you to think you know what's good for me?

It is not rude to say "I understand", because that beats anything that self help books and the inspirational speaker can give me! ;)

I too have found nobody likes what they mistake for wavering i.e. to honestly state the truth that the glass is half empty and half full, while around you the realists cry "you cannot have both!!!"

Um... Sorry, most hard cases at the mental health clinic ooze with seeing the mirror darkly and insisting that the cup is half empty. Is it really up to me to help my brother who also suffers when he insists that he has to be honest with his feelings?

That's not honesty; that's a form of subtle violence against all the positive feelings which we bottle up until we only have negative ones to practice.

Truth is, when you're home and isolated to the point where you think being home is more "normal" than talking with someone, then you're maladapted, and no one may change your mind unless they talk as I do now.

Yes, I am mildly maladapted but I'm trying to show the positive and the negative, because balanced expression beats gazing in that dark mirror.

If this offends anyone who insists on the safety of the hearth over dealing with life outside, then I believe deep down that talking to someone hurts less than your reluctance to share with a trusted friend.

All the anxiety you have might have you to believe your delusions about other people are real. A person is only real when they can glow with positive vibes whilst explaining how they conquer the negative ones daily.

Hopefully the gentle reader is clear of mind enough to see the beauty of positive thinking in what I write.

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Originally posted November 9, 2012 at 6:45 PM PST

Ride the Wave of Change

When change happens, ride the wave for all you are worth, for it will transform you.

Let go of the past and the future, and thus surrender to the passage of time.

Keep your head up, look forward and notice what you are being carried towards.

Surrender and relax because something bigger and more powerful than you is in control: time.

Transcend ego to experience life.

Turn away from vain distractions to numb yourself in the face of change. In doing so you allow yourself the full experience of life.

Sometimes our most challenging experiences will carry us to new levels of awareness and maturity over time.

With patience and perseverance, let go of the past and face the challenges of today while letting tomorrow take care of itself.

Time is waiting...

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Original posting: July 4, 2005 04:37 PM

Saying No to Naysayers The Most Positive Thing to Do

Sometimes negative people present a false downside to positivity e.g. its inability to prevent the downside, which also applies to naysayers.

Additionally, negative people claim that by being negative one prepares oneself for the worst.

Yet they certainly do not appear to enjoy the best of times either.

How can one prepare for the worst and ignore the tiny blessings in life? That is not only disastrous to longterm goals but doomed to breed failure on the short term.

However I am not trying to be negative about the people who are negative.

Indeed everything I said about them so far is the most positive I wish to say about the naysayers.

We need more "fuck yes" and less "no"! We need less "raining on the parade" and more "sunshine and lollipops!"

Indeed, life is too short to spend in woe.

If the naysayers are too busy investing in misery to have fun, I say "No" to their seriousness, and to fun, a big "fuck yes!"

10 Solutions to Reduce Stress

1. Ask a friend or family member for a hug
   
2. Breathe deeply
   
3. Dance it out
   
4. Discuss what's stressing you out with a friend
   
5. Focus on what you can control
   
6. Go for a walk to freshen your mind
   
7. Go to bed earlier
   
8. Look for opportunities in life's challenges
   
9. Reminisce about good times
   
10. Smile